Your attachment style — the pattern of how you relate to close others — was shaped in early childhood and influences every significant relationship you have as an adult. Understanding it is one of the most transformative forms of self-knowledge available.
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Security & trust
Question 1 of 16
I find it relatively easy to get close to others
Question 2 of 16
I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me
Question 3 of 16
I don't often worry about being abandoned by the people I care about
Question 4 of 16
I find it easy to trust people once I get to know them
Anxiety in relationships
Question 5 of 16
I worry that the people I care about don't really care as much about me
Question 6 of 16
I often want to be closer to people than they seem to want to be with me
Question 7 of 16
I worry a lot about my relationships
Question 8 of 16
When I feel my partner is pulling away, I become very anxious
Avoidance & independence
Question 9 of 16
I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others
Question 10 of 16
I prefer not to share my feelings with others
Question 11 of 16
I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on others
Question 12 of 16
I am nervous when anyone gets too close emotionally
Emotional regulation
Question 13 of 16
I am able to manage my emotions during relationship conflict without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed
Question 14 of 16
When I am upset by someone I care about, I can communicate this clearly
Question 15 of 16
I find it easy to return to feeling safe after a disagreement with someone close
Question 16 of 16
My childhood experiences of closeness feel like a resource rather than a source of pain